The Work Within Weekly Edit
A weekly collection of reflections, patterns, and things helping me make sense of modern life, and considering what I’m noticing emotionally, culturally, online and within myself.
Reflection of the week
When it comes to living a fulfilling life, routine is key. You may not always want to stick to your routine, but the structure, safety of what to expect, and integration of things you enjoy will help you to achieve your goals, encourage feelings of pride because you’ve remained disciplined, and will show a full and well-lived life to others.
A pattern I’m seeing
I didn’t realise I was building up a routine that worked for me until others commented on it. Deep in the depths of a breakup, I decided to start to build a routine for myself where I would do the things I needed or wanted to do, which met key hungers for connection, structure and validation. Little did I know that when I would start to date again, the routine would protect me from losing myself in the uncertainty of a talking stage, helping me to stay grounded and more secure than I had been before.
Something worth reading, watching or listening to
I really enjoyed this video on The Law of Resonance. I really do believe there is something to be said for who and what we attract into our lives and how this is often shaped by the shadow work we’ve done, our levels of self-awareness and the patterns we’re willing to uncover and unlearn. Ever wondered why chaotic people tend to surround themselves with chaos or why calm and centred people may be turned off an avoidant partner? It’s usually rooted in the concept of resonance.
Things helping me this week to do the work within
Often when we’re triggered, we’re quick to distract ourselves immediately. We assume that feeling uncomfortable is a bad thing, and allow ourselves to spiral and create false narratives about a person, place or thing. I’ve come to recognise that these narratives aren’t reliable and feeling uncomfortable may not be a bad thing. Maybe it’s a period of recalibration and your nervous system rewiring ti unlearn long-held beliefs or expectations.
A question I’m sitting with
What if we embrace uncertainty and recognise that feeling uncomfortable might be a good thing? Does that change how we view levels of comfort if we know it might be short term pain for long term gain?